The final frontier
Death is not something we can understand emotionally.
Emotionally it makes no sense.
Even more so when we are faced with an untimely death.
Death is ALWAYS sad but its not always tragic.
Of the 150 funerals I conduct annually, 130 of them are for people well over the 3 score and ten we are promised biblically.
It’s the 20 that are tragic. My worst funerals are when the parents are present. Burying your child is so wrong in so many ways. The only thing I find I am able to say to a grieving parent is that God would never ask them to do something he has never done himself.
I remember a service where the deceased was my age and the daughter doing the eulogy my daughters age. I cried.
Funerals are a time of anger,amongst a zillion other emotions, and many people get angry with God. Even claiming that God would or should never allow their loved one to die.
I remember a conversation with a lady who lamented the death of her 92 year old mother. She claimed God should have taken someone else.
The only way we can come to terms with death is logically. Mentally.
The universe is perfect and everything happens for a reason.
God knows what God is doing and does not make mistakes.
Death is normal.
Not EVERYONE can die at 100 years old in their sleep holding hands with their loved one.
Some people die young, others middle aged, others old.
Some people die of disease, others in accidents, some get murdered, some take their own lives and others die of old age.
There is no wrong way to die and there is no wrong age to die.
We have to die.
There is only so much space on earth.
If there were no death then there would have to be a limited number of births.
If this were the case, the earth would have been full a long time ago and we would not have been born.
This way we all get a turn!
I attended a funeral recently for a youngster.
In my opinion, the minister left the family feeling like victims.
Telling a grieving family that this should not have happened is easy.
I believe the better way is to help them accept that it DID happen. That while it makes no sense, and feels terrible, it did happen.
Death and funerals are incredibly sad occasions but I am convinced that one day when we pass, we will look down at our friends and family and say, “Please don’t grieve for me. It’s lovely here. I want you all to be at peace as quickly as possible”
Weather we like it or not. Accept it or not. Come to terms with it or not. Death is so part of life. We actually start dying the day we are born. We are destined for death. It is inevitable.
We arrived on earth before others and where there to welcome them when they arrived. Then we as pioneers, once again, move to the next world and are ere to welcome our friends and family as they arrive on those shores.