Stephen van Bastens wedding tips

Author’s tips from the book, “So you’re engaged, now what? The journey from engaged to married”


  1. Author’s tip: Ask the minister what his policy is on photography. Too many couples have spent a fortune on a photographer only to find that the minister tells them to put the cameras away during his service!
  2. Create an email address for your wedding like and use that whenever you are asked by suppliers for your email address.
  3. When you find a supplier you like, book them and pay the deposit. There are only 52 Saturdays in a year and we get booked quickly. I have some bookings 18 months in advance.
  4. Take the advice the professionals give you. We have been in the industry for years and we have learnt what works through trial and error.
  5. Author’s tip: Use a wedding planner
  6. Author’s tip: Get your will updated at the same time as you get your Ante Nuptial Contract drawn up
  7. Author’s tip: If you can afford to do a relationship course before you get married, do it. If you can’t afford it, see if you can pay it off monthly or do it after you are married and back on your feet.
  8. Author’s tip: Chose your Master of Ceremonies carefully. You want someone who knows everyone, can speak well but will not dominate the evening. He really just needs to keep the evening going.
  9. Don’t forget the photos for the marriage registration
  10. Author’s tip: Make sure you use a DJ that has experience playing at weddings. A wedding is incredibly difficult to manage as there are ages and tastes varying from 10 to 90. Ask for their back up plan if equipment is faulty or DJ takes ill.
  11. Author’s tip: I suggest you ensure that there are two photographers at the wedding. When the bride walks into the chapel, one takes pictures of her while the other catches the groom’s reaction.
  12. Author’s tip: Try to get a copy of the minister’s sermon and ideally give your input into it. See if you can create your own unique ceremony together.
  13. Author’s tip:  Email me for this wedding budget spreadsheet and use it!

About Stephen van Basten - The Marriage Expert

When you meet Stephen van Basten you instantly realize that there is more to him than meets the eye. This is not a moment to judge a book by its cover. Stephen boasts a list of achievements: He met his wife, Jacqui, 27 years ago, married her 21 years ago and is the proud father of a 'very together' 18 year old daughter. Stephen will immediately tell you with a twinkle in his eye, that Life, Work, Marriage and Parenthood are not for sissies. That while they are all hard work, they can be, and should be, incredibly rewarding and fulfilling. Stephen is a past Karate World Champion, a yoga enthusiast and recovering golfer. If you opened Trip Advisor on his facebook page you will see that he has visited 81 cities in 52 countries including the USA, Alaska, Japan, Europe, Australia and China. Stephen has owned his own company, worked in his family's business, being employed by small and large businesses like Shell SA and the BTG Group. His titles include Brand Manager, Sales Manager, Account Manager, Sales Representative and Business Owner. He now sees himself as an Author, Speaker, Trainer and Coach. Stephen published his first book, "So you're engaged, now what? The journey from engaged to married" in December 2013. His ingenious marketing strategy put this book into over 2000 hands in its first 6 months. His second book "So you're alive, now what? The journey from birth to death" is available online and he is working on 5 more books in the series including "So you're married, now what?". Stephen's obvious passion and first love is Human Behavior and specifically Human Behavior as it manifests in RELATIONSHIPS. He is quick to point out that we have many differing relationships: employer, employees, customers, suppliers, colleagues, friendships, marriage, parents, siblings, children, our maker, other drivers on the roads and we generally have issues in most if not all of them. Stephen is a student of the well-known human behavior specialist, Dr. John Demartini and is constantly researching and honing his understanding of this incredibly complex subject. In 2013 he completed over 175 hours of intense training on T. Harv Eker's signature courses.
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