10 Research based marriage vows – Article by Samantha Joel – Psychology Today
Shared by the marriage expert, Stephen van Basten
1. I promise to respect, admire, and appreciate you for who you are, as well as for the person you wish to become.
2. I promise to support and protect your freedom; because although our lives are intertwined, your choices are still yours alone.
3. I promise to seek a deep understanding of your wishes, your desires, your fears and your dreams.
4. I promise to always strive to meet your needs; not out of obligation, but because it delights me to see you happy.
5. I promise to be there for you when you need me, whenever you need me.
6. I promise to nurture your goals and ambitions; to support you through misfortune and celebrate your triumphs.
7. I promise to keep our lives exciting, adventurous, and full of passion.
8. I promise to persevere when times get tough, knowing that any challenges we might face, we will conquer them together.
9. I promise to treat you with compassion over fairness, because we are a team, now and for always.
10. I promise to show you, every day, that I know exactly how lucky I am to have you in my life.
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See the full article here: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/dating-decisions/201401/ten-research-based-wedding-vows
About Stephen van Basten - The Marriage Expert
When you meet Stephen van Basten you instantly realize that there is more to him than meets the eye. This is not a moment to judge a book by its cover.
Stephen boasts a list of achievements:
He met his wife, Jacqui, 27 years ago, married her 21 years ago and is the proud father of a 'very together' 18 year old daughter.
Stephen will immediately tell you with a twinkle in his eye, that Life, Work, Marriage and Parenthood are not for sissies. That while they are all hard work, they can be, and should be, incredibly rewarding and fulfilling.
Stephen is a past Karate World Champion, a yoga enthusiast and recovering golfer.
If you opened Trip Advisor on his facebook page you will see that he has visited 81 cities in 52 countries including the USA, Alaska, Japan, Europe, Australia and China.
Stephen has owned his own company, worked in his family's business, being employed by small and large businesses like Shell SA and the BTG Group. His titles include Brand Manager, Sales Manager, Account Manager, Sales Representative and Business Owner. He now sees himself as an Author, Speaker, Trainer and Coach.
Stephen published his first book, "So you're engaged, now what? The journey from engaged to married" in December 2013. His ingenious marketing strategy put this book into over 2000 hands in its first 6 months. His second book "So you're alive, now what? The journey from birth to death" is available online and he is working on 5 more books in the series including "So you're married, now what?".
Stephen's obvious passion and first love is Human Behavior and specifically Human Behavior as it manifests in RELATIONSHIPS. He is quick to point out that we have many differing relationships: employer, employees, customers, suppliers, colleagues, friendships, marriage, parents, siblings, children, our maker, other drivers on the roads and we generally have issues in most if not all of them.
Stephen is a student of the well-known human behavior specialist, Dr. John Demartini and is constantly researching and honing his understanding of this incredibly complex subject. In 2013 he completed over 175 hours of intense training on T. Harv Eker's signature courses.
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