Lessons from a parrot

Lessons from a parrot

“Beep, beep, beep beep”, sounds the alarm keypad as we prepare to leave home.
“Skwaak, Skwaak”, chirps Victoria’s bright yellow Ringneck parrot, “Skwaak, Skwaak”.
“By-bye, Bud Bud”, we all reply in unison, smiling ridiculously at each other at the daily ritual.

Bud Bud is not clever. He is programmed. When he hears the alarm beeping and the sound of our keys, he skwarks his reply automatically. In fact, he cannot help it.

It struck me recently that we are the same. Have you noticed how you routinely answer certain questions in exactly the same way? How you tell the story of your mishap using the same words? You probably react to stupid drivers the way your parents did. You are almost certain to have the same religious and political ideals as them.
Despite us intellectually understanding the adage that a definition of insanity is doing the same thing, the same way and expecting a different outcome, we generally do the same thing in the same way and marvel at our lack of significant progress.
A privileged few of us recently learnt from T. Harv Eker that we have a financial blueprint. A financial programming that regulates our income. Seriously, it’s like the air-conditioner set at 22 degrees. When the room warms up, it cools it down. When the room cools down, it warms it up. Most humans will operate in more-or-less the same financial milieu as their parents. In my opinion, it is probably as difficult to move up a caste in India as it is to move significantly up the social/financial ladder.
Here is the insight of insights from T. Harv’s seminar: You can never earn more than your self-image. In other words, you can never earn more than you believe you deserve.
If this be true (and I believe it is) then where else are we programmed? EVERYWHERE. In every single area of our lives. Peter Sage highlighted this again for me yesterday when he spoke about our self-image. How we see ourselves. The truth is, we can never be more or less than what we believe ourselves to be. And Blair Singer expounder on this when he taught us about, “The little voice” that guides us.
Thankfully there is hope. It is possible to change your programming. This is the conundrum I have contemplated for decades. In fact, there was a time when I would have asked God (given the audience), “Sir. How does one change?” And while I do not claim to have all the answers, I do know that I have found some solutions. My life reflect it. Jacqui, my wife, and I come from a poor family. We have changed our programming to step many rungs up the ladder.
We can assist you too
Simply ask me how


About Stephen van Basten - The Marriage Expert

When you meet Stephen van Basten you instantly realize that there is more to him than meets the eye. This is not a moment to judge a book by its cover. Stephen boasts a list of achievements: He met his wife, Jacqui, 27 years ago, married her 21 years ago and is the proud father of a 'very together' 18 year old daughter. Stephen will immediately tell you with a twinkle in his eye, that Life, Work, Marriage and Parenthood are not for sissies. That while they are all hard work, they can be, and should be, incredibly rewarding and fulfilling. Stephen is a past Karate World Champion, a yoga enthusiast and recovering golfer. If you opened Trip Advisor on his facebook page you will see that he has visited 81 cities in 52 countries including the USA, Alaska, Japan, Europe, Australia and China. Stephen has owned his own company, worked in his family's business, being employed by small and large businesses like Shell SA and the BTG Group. His titles include Brand Manager, Sales Manager, Account Manager, Sales Representative and Business Owner. He now sees himself as an Author, Speaker, Trainer and Coach. Stephen published his first book, "So you're engaged, now what? The journey from engaged to married" in December 2013. His ingenious marketing strategy put this book into over 2000 hands in its first 6 months. His second book "So you're alive, now what? The journey from birth to death" is available online and he is working on 5 more books in the series including "So you're married, now what?". Stephen's obvious passion and first love is Human Behavior and specifically Human Behavior as it manifests in RELATIONSHIPS. He is quick to point out that we have many differing relationships: employer, employees, customers, suppliers, colleagues, friendships, marriage, parents, siblings, children, our maker, other drivers on the roads and we generally have issues in most if not all of them. Stephen is a student of the well-known human behavior specialist, Dr. John Demartini and is constantly researching and honing his understanding of this incredibly complex subject. In 2013 he completed over 175 hours of intense training on T. Harv Eker's signature courses.
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