I am often confronted by the beauty of the wedding vows and the cold reality of the current divorce rate.
I have often wondered if in fact, the wedding vows may be part of the problem. You see, we vow to stay with our partner in good times and bad. No matter what. In a way giving them licence to do whatever they want because we have vowed to GOD to stay with them in good times or bad.
I felt inspired to write some new ones. I shared them with Jax tonight:
I Stephen, take you Jacqui, to be my lawfully wedded wife.
I promise to honour, trust and love you.
I promise to continue to get to know you and never to stop courting you.
I promise to communicate with you, get present with you often and spend time with you, in short, to value the partnership we are creating today.
I promise to express my needs clearly and undertake to understand and fulfil yours.
I promise to keep the home fire’s burning, always choosing you over all others and make you see by my actions that you are my number one.
Right now, I don’t know how I would react to you being unfaithful, getting into any major addictions, losing your ambition or gambling all our money away. I would so prefer not to find out.
I promise to be a beautiful balancing mechanism in our relationship and a catalyst for ongoing growth.
I take our relationship, this marriage and our friendship seriously.
I commit to enjoying the good times, working through the bad and seeing the marriage through to the end.
Above all else, I promise to be yours as we journey through the adventure called life, together.